#MDRNFTHR

The Modern Father - expanding gender roles

Gender Roles: "a set of societal norms dictating what types of behaviors are generally considered acceptable, appropriate, or desirable for a person based on their actual or perceived sex." 

Have you seen this new hashtag? #MDRNFTHR ? The Modern Father.

​An Instagram feed showing the masculine member of the household doing a typically feminine task. Started by Little Boogaweezin aiming to develop a brand for the modern members of a family in today's world. 

The feed so far shows fathers

• Spending time with their children
• Vacuuming 
• Stroller cruising 
• My favorite - Babywearing 

This movement speaks to me on so many levels. 
I've posted a few photos of my husband wearing our daughter and a very typical response is "You're so lucky he does that". 

I am not lucky my husband takes care of my baby.
I am not lucky my husband does the dishes.
I am not lucky my husband helps with the laundry.
I am not fortunate my husband works and allows me to have my job.
I am not fortunate my husband doesn't expect me to stay home.
I am not blessed my husband treats me so well.
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I am not anything because my husband.

It's not about luck, fortune, or blessings. It's about the roles my partner and I have established for our relationship and how we do what works for us and our family. 

We've removed the expectations typically defined by Mother/Father, Male/Female, Husband/Wife gender roles. We've moved past shoulds and should nots. We've created an existence that allows for the perfect amount of support for each member of our household. 

I am thankful for my husband and everything he does for our family, for our daughter, our corgi, our marriage, our household, our life. But I am not lucky; it is not expected that he or I be the primary person responsible for a task typically assigned to one gender. 

Whoever comprises your household, remove all preconceived expectations and feel how liberating it can be.